5 Steps to Connecting with Yourself
Sustainability Educator & Cocktail Consultant
What Does Showing up Mean?
Too often the workplace does not support authenticity, with a yucky taste for backlash and little interest in opportunities for all.
At first confused, I started to really get into it at a TED Talk by Jodi-Ann Burey.
Burey, renowned for her work, offers techniques for exposing fat-cats and getting real when it comes to on-the-job equality. Her ideas urge executives to take on a commitment to change.
She asked the audience to imagine a Halloween party where the host told you “come as you are.” You wear your jeans, but a friend shows up as Cat-Woman and snags the best-costume contest. Being just who you are makes you feel like an outsider.
The feeling resonates, no matter who. Everyone—people-of-color, whites, introverts, people with disabilities—feel lonely sometimes.
The pandemic was boring and awful. Six months after opening Supernova Ballroom bar, Canada locked down like few other countries. I faced a hard decision. I closed the bar to avoid bankruptcy.
The story doesn’t get better. I worked during the pandemic, looking to rebuild. But I was so depressed I rarely got out of bed. I cancelled every project. I thought I was destined always to grieve. But I had time to think and that felt like some kind of freedom.
I had time to focus and decided to redo Supernova. I ended up creating a place I’m really proud of, called Black Lagoon. It’s a goth metal pop-up with drag and unbelievable weirdness. I saw that people who came were like me—outcasts who’d struggled in school.
Black Lagoon closed a month after pop-up. I learned that if we wanted to protect the LGBTQ and BIPOC community, we’d have to tone things down for the bartenders’ safety. I started thinking.
What do Bars Really Need?
Bartending is capitalist, you’re making money off someone. It’s ableist, too. You’ve got to move when you work. I was a part of the problem. Now I see things we can do to expand inclusivity. I read about anti-oppression and there was something we didn’t have, specifically, training in both anti-oppression and things like diversity, equality and inclusion.
I researched anti-oppression and realized there is something our entire industry needs. We have to collaborate using anti-oppression training and diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) training.
A friend turned me on to Natty Fantastic. Its training is more like therapy, learning about self-worth or looking at what I was doing that affected coworkers and the people who surround me.
Don’t Shrug off Brias
Explicit bias is excluding somebody, being racist, ableist or anti-trans. When it happens, it’s a real downer.
Implicit bias is harder to spot. It’s ignorant offenses directed at others. And it does happen in bartending.
We should be intentional when we’re hiring. Otherwise we fall into giving work to anyone who reflects our point-of-view. When you interview somebody from a different culture, cop to your bias and open doors to people who aren’t like you.
3 Tips for Sustainable Humans
1. Giving weekend shifts to the fastest moving bartenders is ableist. Train everyone to go faster on weekends. It requires time and adequate space.
2. We must allow people to question what we’re doing; it helps us improve. Open doors to different people. Create more community where everyone is represented.
3. Encourage everyone to undertake this journey. If money isn’t a problem, good for you, but if your budget is tight, my door is open. I can point to free resources online.